Fill Hole / Feel Whole
By Joyce Stech

You wake up at 3 am. You are not hungry but you search the kitchen cabinets, the refrigerator, and the pantry anyway and start eating anything.

You can sure pick ‘em! You seem to attract the same kind of jerk again and again. The relationship starts off great and each time it ends in total disaster. You know you’re not the problem.

Today was totally screwed up and you deserve a break! You need a drink. The first drink leads to another and another and so on. Next morning you hurt and vow not to drink again. But you do it anyway. It didn’t start this way, but now you can’t stop once you start.

All of the above examples share a common element; each person has a void or a hole to fill to feel whole. Where does this hole come from? How did the hole start? How can you find it? Is there a way to fill the hole and feel whole instead of a hole? If you have a hole, either consciously or unconsciously, you will do whatever is necessary to get satisfaction and be filled. This is human nature.

In working with my clients on weight management, I knew the real problem was not solely physical. I used reflexology, lymphatic drainage, herbs, aromatherapy, BodyTalk™ and other holistic treatments. Still something was missing. Excess weight is usually connected with bad eating habits. However, I understood that why the poor eating habits were originally developed had to be dealt with if the weight was going to stay off. Often the extra pounds were protection from something. Until we figured out what the pounds were protecting, the pounds came back. Until I could help my clients find alternative ways to “protect” whatever they were protecting, or realize that they no longer needed protection, that weight came back again and again. I initially developed the YAC as a weight management program with the premise:

The weight is there for a reason.
Find the reason and you can deal with the solution.
Find the reason and you can fill the hole.

YAC is an acronym for Your Actual Container. YAC is the body that forms the exterior and can be viewed by the naked eye, reflecting the resulting intake of all the contents (physical, emotional, mental and spiritual baggage of the individual) that cannot be seen by the naked eye and is placed into a person’s container, thus adding to or detracting from to the size of the container (or YAC). The container can be altered at any moment in time by chance, luck, stress, or deliberate individual action.

It is impossible to take care of any issue permanently until you:
1. Know you have a hole.
2. Know how to fill the hole.
3. Fill the hole.

I find that holes powerfully illuminate where you are missing something. Once a hole is identified, you can choose to:
1. Continue to fill up with a vice that makes you feel worse, or
2. Use one of the twelve basic essences to get to the root of why you do what you do.

The twelve basic essences used with the YAC system include Knowledge, Grace, Trust, Self-Love, Decision, Relationship, Communication, Forgiveness, Commitment, Follow Through, Discipline, and Persistence. When working with these essences you can permanently seal the hole.

As an example, we will use FOOD as the vice/hole filler and the essence of SELF-LOVE to fill the hole and become whole. If you are experiencing a void or a hole in SELF-LOVE, one physical way to fill it is with a COMFORT FOOD. Comfort food is the food you crave when you want to feel better about a situation that has “hurt your heart.” If you are from the South, a comfort food may be good ole fried chicken, mashed potatoes and gravy. For a New Yorker, it may be a bagel with cream cheese and lox. Comfort food is a food that takes you to a pleasant memory or a time where you felt nurtured, loved, and safe. Nurturing or lack of nurturing will influence your ability to achieve self-love. A hole in your self-love area can very well manifest in your craving or overeating these comfort foods to try to fill the hole from an outside source. Once you know the hole exists you can start to recognize and define your patterns and the beliefs that have formed around the hole

With awareness that you are filling a hole, when you start to crave comfort foods you can look to see if you are being nurtured in your life. YAC tools supply alternative ways to nurture yourself using different essential oils, particular bath salts, and specific personally-designed exercises. In the process you work on your issues surrounding self-love. When you have effective tools to work with, you then have other choices for nurturing besides eating comfort foods.
Using YAC to find your hole and fill it with an appropriate essence is just the beginning. YAC affects every area of your life. How you physically manifest this lack, this hole, is played out every day in all of your actions. It is important to remember that YAC is a process, a journey of YOU. It is a life changing experience and different for everyone. Life was not meant to be a struggle. There is a way to identify and fill your holes easily, comfortably and effectively for your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being. YAC is about being honest with who you truly are and reveling in it. It’s great to be YOU! GET YACtivated!

Get YACtivated Workshop: April 25, 26, 27, 2008.

Joyce Stech (AKA the YACtivator) is a high energy writer, dynamic facilitator/teacher, and entrepreneur with credentials in sales, marketing and communications. She is a Sensei (Martial Arts instructor,; NLP Practitioner, Reiki Master, and Master Light Language Instructor. Each of these experiences is embedded in her work as the YACtivator and within the YAC™ system. Contact Joyce at Resources Unlimited in Martinsville, VA, at 276.670.7546 and visit www.resourcesunlimited1.com.