Okay so you got mindfulness, and you’re all over taking responsibility for everything within your circle of influence in life. Awesome! You’re already in a population minority. There is just one final tool in the Reality Check Toolkit: acceptance. The thing about acceptance is that it really changes your life. But it is quite hard to […]
How to Put your Feelings into Words, and Express your Emotions
Is being able to put your feelings into words helpful in life? And are you at a disadvantage when you don’t develop your emotional vocabulary? Yes – and yes! I wrote before about how and why processing our emotions instead of escaping them is an essential life practice. And about how accepting emotions completely changes your […]
A Guide to Handling Change Effectively
Do you struggle with handling change in your life? Many of us do. Up until a few years ago, I wasn’t great at handling change. I’d resist it and when it did happen (the involuntary kind), I’d experience stress. I have improved my fortitude for handling change quite a bit since then. This post offers two key […]
How to have a Sane Christmas – Thoughts on Handling Holidays-related Malaise
It’s the most wonderful time of the year! Only it isn’t always. Not say, if you are going through a divorce. Or the time off is forcing you to confront a life that is making you miserable. In fact, the run up to Christmas and New Year – and other junctures where we are supposed to […]
6 Practices for Honoring Heartache and Leaning into Loneliness
We don’t exactly make Heartache and Loneliness welcome at the table. They’re the guys we’d rather have not invited, but we couldn’t get out of it. The girls with nothing good to say about anything. And what do we do? We go sit somewhere else. At the far side of the table, where the fun’s […]
Overcoming Insecurity using Self-Discovery
Feeling insecure is a reasonable response to an conclusion we made early on: that we aren’t inherently lovable or acceptable, but that we need to be a certain way before those things are granted. But seeking to overcome insecurity through endless self-betterment strategies doesn’t lastingly improve the situation. It’s cheesy, but change needs to happen […]