We use people and the circumstances we find ourselves in to reaffirm our beliefs about ourselves, others and life. Rarely are we dealing with people and things as they are. We do this because subconsciously, not having a version of ...
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is still wildly popular as a personality assessment method. In 2014, two million people took the test, in seventy different countries, and in 21 languages. But MBTI has drawn a lot of bashing over recent years, ...
Your self-concept just means how you see yourself. It is related to your self-esteem. And it might not be (and probably isn’t) something that you give much thought to day-to-day. Our true perceptions of ourselves take some work to get to ...
At a basic level, psychological defense mechanisms are the lies we tell ourselves to avoid pain. It is difficult to overstate the importance of becoming aware of our own unique combo platters of PDMs. They shape our personalities in quite ...
Setting goals is a little bit like locking a cute baby monkey in a room with a bunch of 4 year olds, and waiting for the ensuing chaos. Each child is apprehensive about approaching the little monkey, but equally longs ...
We should all probably become aware how we characteristically respond to confrontation and criticism. Each throws light on fairly weighty aspects of our psyches; our self-worth, for example. They’re also a fairly reliable predictor of our ability to establish and ...
The upper limit problem is from Gay Hendricks’s book, The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level. It’s all about our tendency to self-sabotage during peak moments in our careers and relationships. Having upper ...
The meditation teacher Sharon Salzberg talks of love having both ‘near and far enemies’. It isn’t just love that has such enemies; other states emblematic of a fulfilling life do too. For most of us, the near enemies are more ...
It’s obvious, but other people do not cause us to feel angry, irritated, upset. We do it to ourselves. A person could have done the most annoying thing in the world and, although our primary instinct might be hostility, as ...
I don’t recall the exact moment when my 29 year-old self booked onto education and personal transformation program, the Landmark Forum. I do remember that there was nothing specifically wrong with my life. My largest problem was me. I had ...
