When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. When the student is truly ready, the teacher disappears.”Lao Tzu When one of the Enneagram community’s most distinguished teachers called into question my type earlier this year, I found myself being openly defensive. This was disturbing to me. And also, intriguing! At the time, I considered […]
Integrating Polarities using the Enneagram
Lately, I have been reflecting on an indirect benefit of my study of the Enneagram. There is a more systemic quality to my thinking. Also, studying the Enneagram is training me to think less in terms of absolutes. One of the reasons for that is that learning the Enneagram helps us to see the cognitive […]
How to Orient towards Fulfilment of Deep Relational Needs
Exploring Relational Blueprints Whatever you think you need from another you already contain within you. If you would commit to authentically finding that first, the whole basis of the relationship may shift from scarcity to abundance.Educare Unlearning Institute: ‘Where to Start’ Note: I’m indebted to Belinda Gore’s teachings on the Enneagram with Object Relations theory […]
Enrolment for a Course in the Enneagram is now Open!
Coping mechanisms and addictions show up everywhere. You know when you can absolutely count on them showing up? When we’re tailgating the Unknown. Think about what happens to you when you’re at your edge. What coping mechanisms show up in those moments? I’ve spent this past month or so attempting to be proficient at various […]
Oh No You Didn’t (On Defending without Defensiveness)
When you waft around between spiritual and developmental disciplines as I do, you learn that defending your position on something is just not a good sign. It’s kinda frowned upon, actually. And so you stop defending, and when you feel defensive, you assume you must have some Shadow. Therefore the desire to defend becomes an […]
Wisdom for my Fellow Frustrated Idealists (Enneagram 1s, 4s & 7s)
Regardless of how much we study personality, we will still occasionally become gripped by it. Eradication isn’t the name of the game, I think. The aim is to get more skilled at meeting what we encounter, moment-to-moment. What I notice in my own Observer practice is that awareness contracts around familiar vortexes. Some of mine are “is this […]