‘Shadow’ is a degradation on consciousness, preventing us from receiving impressions and interpreting them in a non-distorted way. The Enneagram is (among other things) a map of the nine patterns of distortion. Far be it from nine descriptions of who we are, the Enneagram helps us to locate and study when and how we are not being ourselves.
Save Yourself (the World will take Care of Itself)
Fair warning: this post got a little preachy I’m afraid. It isn’t your job to save the world. It isn’t even your duty to right the wrongs you see at a granular level. Not primarily, anyway. Your first job is to become the fullest version of yourself. What are your deepest longings, and are you […]
How ‘Sparketypes’ can help you know what you are doing with your life
What are you doing with your life? Beyond working and parenting I mean. I know you’ve thought about it… I have too. I’ve steered myself through the odd existential crisis. It’s surprisingly difficult to see what’s under your nose. What am I doing with my life? Teaching; advising others where I can. That’s what I […]
The Rewards of being Loyal to Something (Anything)
Have you ever experienced the delight of paying for your favorite things using a mobile wallet? This happened to me for the first time this week. I paid for my shopping using the accumulated points from a customer loyalty card. As I have been collecting the points mindlessly for months, I now have potentially weeks […]
How I apply Personality Psychology in my Relationship
For a minority of lucky people, finding and keeping love has been easy. Maybe you are one of these fortunate souls. Perhaps you met the love of your life during your college/University years, and you’ve remained happy – more or less – ever since. I am not one of those people. The long term relationships […]
Your Romantic Chemistry isn’t Mysterious, it’s Accountable
Have you ever experienced instant connection with someone, be it your current partner, an ex or even your girl or guy friend? Of course you have! Have you ever shrugged and attributed it to “chemistry” being present, without seeking to understand the nature of the simpatico? You wouldn’t be the only one… I hear this […]