The four fearsome hurdles were coined by psychotherapist, teacher and writer, David Richo, in his book Past is Present, which also inspired last week’s post (about transference). The fearsome hurdles are four specific tensions that impact us all in relationships and life. These things are a given of life, and core issues in relationships. The […]
A Short Guide to ‘Transference’, the Relationship-harmer
Last weekend I was spending time at my boyfriend’s place. It was his birthday, so we had one or two social engagements, plus he was preparing for something important on a personal project. This meant he had less available attention than usual. As the weekend unfolded, I experienced an old wound reopening. A past unmet […]
5 Life-Changing Ideas from ‘A New Earth’
A New Earth of: Create a Better Life is Eckhart Tolle’s epic follow up to the seismically successful Power of Now. If you’re into self-help/personal growth, both ought to be on your reading list. When you drill down on the ideas in the book, there are really only a few essential ones, but they are genuinely […]
The 10 Stages of Meditation, according to Culadasa
The process of training the mind evolves through ten distinct stages – these are the ten stages of meditation outlined by Culadasa, aka John Yates, in his book, the meditation training manual The Mind Illuminated: A Complete Meditation Guide Integrating Buddhist Wisdom and Brain Science for Greater Mindfulness. Even if you’re a novice meditator like […]
The Search for Self-Awareness
Gauging and growing self-awareness is extremely difficult to do, which I’ve written about before. But it’s the most important thing to do for greater overall happiness and fulfilment. Organisational psychologist and author Tasha Eurich describes self-awareness as the least understood but largest “meta skill of the 21st century”, and I have to agree. Research shows […]
How to Eat a Frog: 21 Techniques to Increase Productivity
Entrepreneur Brian Tracy’s book, Eat That Frog!, is a self-help classic. The book helps support improvements in personal effectiveness. (Personally, I prefer this book to David Allen’s Get Things Done, one of the other productivity masterclasses, as it’s a bit more digestable.) The secret to sustaining high productivity levels over long term is doing inner work; […]