I’ve been thinking about how we deal with the increased visibility that often accompanies personal expansion. When we change, and especially when that entails ‘branching out’ in some way, we open ourselves up to judgment and criticism. The prospect of that can be more than a little off-putting. I know that for me, I have […]
Save Yourself (the World will take Care of Itself)
Fair warning: this post got a little preachy I’m afraid. It isn’t your job to save the world. It isn’t even your duty to right the wrongs you see at a granular level. Not primarily, anyway. Your first job is to become the fullest version of yourself. What are your deepest longings, and are you […]
How ‘Sparketypes’ can help you know what you are doing with your life
What are you doing with your life? Beyond working and parenting I mean. I know you’ve thought about it… I have too. I’ve steered myself through the odd existential crisis. It’s surprisingly difficult to see what’s under your nose. What am I doing with my life? Teaching; advising others where I can. That’s what I […]
What to do if you Lost your Faith in Humanity
Spend too much of your thought time in the news, and you may find you lose your faith in the decency and fundamental goodness of others. But the picture presented by most media is skew-whiff, and before you know it, can lead to the distorted impression that human beings are mostly cruel, mean-spirited and selfish. That’s […]
How to Accept Yourself as You Are
Remember that scene in Bridget Jones’s Diary where the character played by Colin Firth sheepishly confesses to Bridget “I like you – very much. Just as you are”. That lovely moment is a pure expression of acceptance. And whilst many of us do accept the people in our lives unconditionally, it’s a lot rarer to feel […]
How to Avoid taking things Personally
Is it ever useful to take other people’s words and behaviour personally? Nope. Clearly there is value in observing and acting upon the words and actions of others. That’s how you keep negativity out of your life, not to mention stay safe. However, taking something personally usually means getting angry, upset or righteous, and the […]