The rules of modern dating – as anyone who has ever entered the battlefield knows – are that there are very few rules. Or so it can seem. It is true that things are a lot different to when our parents were dating. And it is also correct that we need to toughen up and have […]
8 Times Cheryl Strayed’s ‘Dear Sugar’ Column totally nailed Love and Life
In terms of life advice, the Dear Sugar section of Rumpus.com, a column once written anonymously by author Cheryl Strayed, was tough to beat. I say ‘was’ because sadly, the column doesn’t exist anymore (it stopped in 2012). But luckily, its wisdom has been immortalized in the profound book, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life […]
How to Keep the Intimacy in your Long Term Relationship
This article about intimacy is based on the information of Mona Fishbane, PhD. More detail on what she teaches is available in her book, Loving with the Brain in Mind: Neurobiology and Couple Therapy. During early love, our brains are all high as kites on a chemical called dopamine. It’s what helps with bonding, and […]
The Truth about Infatuation (and How to Get over Infatuation)
We’ve all at some time been held in the grips of infatuation. It is, by definition, an intense and short-lived experience. Nobody stays infatuated. But whilst it lasts, infatuation and the accompanying feelings – longing, devotion, etc. – can be quite all-consuming and tough to bear. A lot of us have learned the painful way that […]
How to Fall Out of Love with Someone (10 Tips)
Unreciprocated feelings aren’t fun to deal with, obviously. Nothing new here. Having fallen in and out of love countless times, I believe that falling out of love with someone is a skill that can be mastered by anyone, with a little dedication and patience. In fact, I think I have it down to an art. […]
14 Things You Need to Know about Adult Attachment Theory
The book referred to in this article, Attached, features in this list of 34 Life Changing Self-Development Books to Read ASAP. Single or attached, long-time married or newly dating, you definitely want to know what attachment theory is all about. Attachment theory was the product of British psychoanalyst John Bowlby’s research. Bowlby was looking at the distress experienced […]