You have arrived at your destination. When my phone speaks the words, I believe them, no questions asked. The evidence is in front of me: I’m indeed at location B. I have arrived. I’ve made it! There is nobody there to tell us that in life. And you can’t rely on what you have to […]
How to tell if your Escapism habit become Avoidance
Ah escapism. Life wouldn’t be as awesome without it. The writer Shirly Jackson said “No live organism can continue for long to exist sanely under conditions of absolute reality”. How correct she was. And whatever your preferred form of mental junk food – playing video games, reading novels, listening to music, watching movies, socializing with […]
The 3 Kinds of People to Take Advice from
What qualifies us to give advice to others? And who should we take advice from? With unsolicited opinions constantly on offer, it’s an important thing to figure out! I’ll listen to almost everybody, but I’ll proactively seek ‘life advice’ from two kinds of people: family and friends that know me extremely well, and people who have […]
‘I Just Haven’t Met the Right Person’
Yeah, I know. I used to tell myself the same thing. It’s still my default reason if people ask why I’m single, and there isn’t time to give them the analysed-with-military-precision response. But I think we both know it’s a little simplistic. Telling yourself you haven’t found ‘the Right Person’ (even though you’ve kissed not […]
‘How Do You Feel About Me?’
I want to know but I am afraid to ask. I ask anyway. Mostly because I have confidence that even if the response isn’t to my liking, I can cope. It doesn’t stop me from feeling sick in my stomach about the fact that I am standing here practically naked. Emotionally exposed and out on […]
‘I’m Not Sure Why I’m Telling You This’
Please, don’t stress. You’re probably telling me because I asked, and because of how intently I am listening for the answer (including what’s between and beyond the words). People tell me personal stuff all the time. Complex perspectives that are not usually so readily shared; reflections on past, present, future challenges. I am the privileged […]